Pride

Pride is such a tricky thing. It is so easy to spot in others, but we often completely miss it in ourselves. This can be particularly damaging in a marriage. This week I read a chapter in the book "Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage" by W. Goddard. He taught that when we find fault with our spouse it is actually a form of pride. The fact that we get irritated with them and expect them to change because we want them to is prideful. I had never thought of it that way before but it actually makes a lot of sense. He went on to say that we need to repent when we feel like that and try to truly change. Goddard doesn't believe in sharing your grievances with your spouse, but encourages us to change how we feel about them. He said something I love and I'm paraphrasing, but it was basically if we dislike someone, how they use their fork could drive us crazy, but if we are in love with them they could dump their plate of food in out lap and we would think it was cute. It's such a great point about attitude, and really backs up why we should focus less on the bothersome things.

 

For me this week I am going to just take my husbands dirty clothes out of the bathroom and put them into the hamper. I am the one it bothers so I can deal with it. I know it sounds like a little thing but we have had a lot of stupid fights over it. After the reading this week it really clicked for me how I am being so prideful and stubborn not just moving the clothing myself. What is something all of you can work on to be less prideful with someone close to you?

Another way to combat pride is to focus on the good. So this week I want to focus on what an amazing dad my husband is!